Decisions... decisions...

After hubby knows that I'm pregnant, he said that this will be our last visit here in Florida for his mom coz he's going to spend his vacation to his family (me and our baby). Hubby is the only son and it's difficult for him to fly to Florida if something happens to his mom coz his job needs him too. Plus our vacation won't really be a vacation because every time he visits his mom, she wants him to do something for her like fixing things that are broken, replacing stuff that aren't working, go out shopping with his mom and eating out. My mom-in-law won't go out with other people even if she can afford to pay somebody to bring her somewhere if she needs to. She just want hubby to bring her out which only happen once a year after hubby got married. I feel pity on my mother-in-law coz she said that nobody visit her every month compare to other residents here. But I pity hubby also. He has a life too but he has to make decisions for his mom especially if she's sick coz she can't remember anything anymore. After his father died, hubby is monitoring his mom though he's far away from her. I now understand why oldies here need to be in an Assisted Living Facility. At first I told hubby that his mom can stay with us but hubby is worried that if I work or we have a baby, we can't attend his mom's needs especially if she's sick. Unlike in Assisted Living Facility where they have a nurse 24/7, somebody will monitor them to take their medicines, they get house cleaning, they have a necklace where there's a button that they can push if they fall or if they're sick so they can get help, they have therapist, 3 meals a day, salon and more. It makes us feel more comfortable thinking that my mother-in-law can get help when she needs it. Hubby said that it would be nice if he has siblings who can watch over his mom if he's not available but there's none. And because of that he doesn't want to have just one kid but more than one. I realized how hard it is to have one child because of what hubby is doing for his mom. He needs to make decisions as a husband, a father-to-be and as a son. I try to understand hubby's situation and his mom because she raised my husband so well and I thank her for that. Now that I'm pregnant, hubby made a decision to move his mom to where we live. In this way, we can visit her once a week (coz she doesn't want us to visit her everyday), we can take her out for shopping or dinner if she wants to and we can monitor her things (coz she complained that her jewelries, money and other things were stolen here which made hubby mad every time he remembers the diamond ring that his mom suppose to give me as a wedding present). Oh well, I hope there will be no complications with our schedules in going back to Alabama. Hubby and I were shopping for another Assisted Living Facility in Alabama before we come down here. We found a nice place and we noticed that the oldies there look lively and happier than any Assisted Living Facility that we went to. We just hope that my mom-in-law will like her new place.